Transitions in Marriage: Lesson 6

There are many transitions that occur during the span of a marriage. One significant one that I am going to focus on during this post is the transition of having your first child. Many things about the family dynamic change when a child is born. For example, the father may need to work more due to the new expenses, the possibility of less physical intimacy occurring, husbands feeling insignificant in child rearing at such a young age, and many many more. Some of the efforts we can make to ensure a continued sense of unity between husband and wife during such a transition are as follows:

• Showing appreciation for husband
• Involve husband in pregnancy
• Go to doctors visits together
• Make decisions about the baby together (nursery, name, who will be present at birth, etc...)
• Tell your husband what you're physically feeling throughout the pregnancy. 
• Focus on being a couple
• DON'T STOP DATING DURING PREGNANCY!
• Share responsibilities of care taking 

The overall message that is crucial to live by in your marriage is...be mindful. Be mindful in your actions and your words, be a mindful mother, be a mindful wife, be a mindful husband, daughter, sister and brother. When you do this you are making a choice. You are choosing to continue to be one. Never become parallel, always strive to grow closer together.