Dates should always be:
Planned- This allows the male figure in the relationship to "step up", if you will, and prove himself as a dominant care taker and someone who is willing to step up to the plate.
Paid for- In the earlier stages of the relationship, when the man in is able to and willing to provide the funds for the courtship, this displays his ability and desire to provide for you as a husband. If courtship continues and becomes a more serious relationship, it would then become appropriate to discuss how you might divide the funds appropriately and responsibly between the two of you.
Paired off- When dates become paired off, this becomes an opportunity in which the male figure in the relationship can show his willingness to stand up for and protect his female counterpart. When being put in a one-on-one situation, it becomes easier to see that person from every angle and in every situation.
The second point I would like to address on the topic of marriage preparation are the different types of love. You might be confused by this statement, wondering how there could be more than one type of love. We're talking about the "ooshy gooshy" romantic type love, right? Well, here's some food for thought...The kind of love you fall into, you can also fall out of. That is why it is so imperative that you build your relationship on the four following types of love.
- Agape
- Love or concern for fellow men
- Charity
- General Love
- No need to have met someone to have this type of love for them
- Philios
- Brotherly love
- Non-romantic
- Plutonic
- Eros
- Romantic
- Passionate
- Storge
- The type of love that a parent possesses for their child
Once you learn about these types of love, it is easy to understand how gaining a part of each of these types of love for your significant other would deepen and strengthen your love for each other and cause your relationship and marriage to flourish.
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