Blending families can come as a challenge to anyone, even with the best intentions. It is not an easy thing to blend a family, but with the correct knowledge and an eye for knowing what is best, you can help children adjust properly and form healthy relationships with step-parents.
Step-parents can help children adjust by not being too hard on them. It is also important that they are not too demanding. This allows children to adjust to having this new parental role in the home smoothly. It is also important that Step-parents try not to play a corrective roll as a new parent within the first two years of marriage.
It is also important to keep in mind that it will indeed take some time to gain a sense of normalcy within the new family system. This sense of normalcy could take up to two years to obtain. In this time period, the step-parent should assume a role similar to that of a "fantastic aunt or uncle" if you will. When blending a family, it is important that the two parents discipline together. When they do this, the family gains a sense of "ours" rather than mine or yours.
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